I still haven’t found my home, as in an actual structure or place. I’ve moved around a lot and “home” is something I think about often. The place I grew up — rural Louisiana — definitely didn’t feel like home. Since then I’ve lived in Atlanta, Los Angeles, and Seattle, with Seattle and L.A. coming closest to places that felt more like me. I love traveling and feel more at home in some of the places I’ve visited vs. where I’ve lived. Maybe for me my home is inside myself. I’ve come to know myself more since I turned 40 (16 years ago 🙂) and became a mother and an artist.
The line about surrounding yourself with carefully curated items resonated with me.
I have felt overwhelmed by the weight of so many items and possessions, and am beginning the process of getting rid of items, so my peace has room to roam.
Beautiful piece of thinking and finding the words to express it, thank you <3
« It is possible that rooting has less to do with belonging than I once thought?And more to do with finding out who you are when you stop adjusting. » love it.
I was just wondering if it’s by chance that you chose a place to root where there are no people. I’m in a somehow similar process, trying to feel my own feelings instead of focusing constantly on accommodating the needs of the others…so far I’ve kind of figured out my everyday life with my small family, I need a lot of solitude…but when we are surrounded with other people, especially extended family I don’t know yet how to cope…I am not numb anymore so I feel my pain…not the easiest place to be.
Hi dear! Yes you are completely right, the pressure of finding a home or adjusting to what is around me has lead me eventually to find a place with as little people as possible. I don't know if that's a good sign but for me it feels so liberating to be in nature where I see more trees and animals than people on a daily basis. It feels like a reset with the way I used to live for almost my entire life. I hope this makes sense! Don't hesitate to ask me anything.
About people with extended family especially, I also had this issue...I felt some kind of pressure. I don't know if you have that too? After a few years in nature I have learned that feeling good is the most important thing. Your well being is nr 1. Your family and friends (if they are kind and respectful) will feel the same way. Put yourself first, please <3
I still haven’t found my home, as in an actual structure or place. I’ve moved around a lot and “home” is something I think about often. The place I grew up — rural Louisiana — definitely didn’t feel like home. Since then I’ve lived in Atlanta, Los Angeles, and Seattle, with Seattle and L.A. coming closest to places that felt more like me. I love traveling and feel more at home in some of the places I’ve visited vs. where I’ve lived. Maybe for me my home is inside myself. I’ve come to know myself more since I turned 40 (16 years ago 🙂) and became a mother and an artist.
The line about surrounding yourself with carefully curated items resonated with me.
I have felt overwhelmed by the weight of so many items and possessions, and am beginning the process of getting rid of items, so my peace has room to roam.
Beautiful piece of thinking and finding the words to express it, thank you <3
« It is possible that rooting has less to do with belonging than I once thought?And more to do with finding out who you are when you stop adjusting. » love it.
I was just wondering if it’s by chance that you chose a place to root where there are no people. I’m in a somehow similar process, trying to feel my own feelings instead of focusing constantly on accommodating the needs of the others…so far I’ve kind of figured out my everyday life with my small family, I need a lot of solitude…but when we are surrounded with other people, especially extended family I don’t know yet how to cope…I am not numb anymore so I feel my pain…not the easiest place to be.
Hi dear! Yes you are completely right, the pressure of finding a home or adjusting to what is around me has lead me eventually to find a place with as little people as possible. I don't know if that's a good sign but for me it feels so liberating to be in nature where I see more trees and animals than people on a daily basis. It feels like a reset with the way I used to live for almost my entire life. I hope this makes sense! Don't hesitate to ask me anything.
About people with extended family especially, I also had this issue...I felt some kind of pressure. I don't know if you have that too? After a few years in nature I have learned that feeling good is the most important thing. Your well being is nr 1. Your family and friends (if they are kind and respectful) will feel the same way. Put yourself first, please <3
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